I had a discussion with my grandmother last night. want to know the reason? then continue reading
It all started 15 years ago, I have a cousin named Jhonny. He was among us the most preferred by my grandmother. I remember we got a couple of part-time jobs in the summer, I got in an industrial machine shop and he in a car repair shop
I was responsible for simple tasks like cleaning or going to the mechanic, do errands and he performed the same tasks at work, I remember one night coming back home, I could see
my grandmother and my aunt talking to him and asked "What is this all about?" They told me they found my cousin working in the sun and that maybe could cause skin cancer. and I
said to myself "we are at 26 degrees, please, that sounds ridiculous!!! " I would not say it out loud because I knew I would start a discussion
Then he spent the rest of the summer watching TV, playing video games and wandering in the evenings with the consent of the grandmother. She believed it was right and that he should not "suffer" in what she called "Forced Labor. " Meanwhile, I spent many years working in the summer while my cousin spent every summer doing the same thing
when he turned 20, he had a girlfriend named Nancy, and for reasons of fate, she became pregnant. we did not know until one morning I went to my room and I realized that my personal items were gone and my cousin and his girlfriend had not reported to class. They had escaped to another city to avoid being reprimanded by her pregnancy. the evening of that day was an absolute chaos. My grandmother felt to die because she did not know what could have happened to them. Nancy's relatives came to the house asking if we had
knowledge of the whereabouts of them. I could sense what was really going on. Nancy has a sister , her name Susan. We got along very well and asked her for a moment alone. I noticed that she was really quiet for the situation that was happening. and I asked her "spit out the beans, where did they go?. She told me" I have no idea " and I told her "If you don't tell me where they are you'll be in serious trouble, " she was nervous and I also said " if you tell me where they are, I promise I will not say who told me" after she told me everything, I talked to Susan's father and promised him to look for his daughter and my cousin. But I already knew where they were, I got Susan out of trouble by doing this.
The next morning after the "search" my grandmother was inconsolable and she asked me if I knew anything about them , and told her "I'm as confused as you are , but do not worry. when they run out of money , they will return, so just wait and see." my aunt was upset, she said she would not allow him to enter the house never again.
A month later, we received a call, it was Jhonny. told us about the pregnancy of his girlfriend and he was so scared and ran away with her (without saying that he had taken my belongings with him, anyway. His mother paid me the value of things taken)
My grandmother ordered my aunt that they should live with us to take care of the baby. after the birth of the baby, I had one of the most difficult years. My room was next to them and every night the baby cried, was impossible to sleep but I could not blame anyone.
They moved to another city and my cousin never took the responsability as a head of his family. One day nancy told my cousin that she was taking the baby to the daycare and then heading to her job , but that was the last time he saw them. He asked me if I knew something but I didn't have any idea where they went. Nancy's parents cut communications with him and he never knew about them. ( i think nancy got tired of his laziness and ran away ).
After six months He told me he was going out with Lizette and I said " you are supposed to be searching for your daughter , what the hell are you thinking men?". The point is that Lizette got pregnant too and he never changed his ways. and the same story happened again. Lizette ran away from him for the same reason Nancy did and he returned to grandma's house
He is having a lot of trouble trying to get a job because resume in three words he is a " Good for Nothing " After I finished school. I started working full time and saving money until now. it has been a tough time for him because he refuses to leave his party life aside and take responsabilities.
Last night Grandma called me. she asked me if I can do something for him and let him live in my place and I said " No way " I'm not gonna break my back for someone who does not want to do nothing. you ruined him for letting him do what he pleased and never teach him what he was supposed to do". and she got mad at me and said lot of bad things at me ( she was always overprotecting him , blinded by love ) and I told her " Grandma you gotta do something , TOO MUCH LOVE IS GONNA KILL HIM " I won't be resolving his problems. leave him on his own. let him do it by himself. she hung up the phone cursing me but I knew i did the right thing.
My mom called me later telling me that grandma was really disappointed with me , my mother asked me why I refused to help him and I told her " it's for his own good mom , Believe me. the only way we can do something for him is pushing him to do thing on his own. if we always resolve his troubles , he will never grow up as a man " I don't know how long is gonna be before grandma speak to me again , but i feel she is gonna thank me for what I did. it's just a matter of time
